Adjusting to your 20’s

Your 20’s can be a weird period of time. If you have been a dreamer and idealist all your life, this particular time of your life has a special kind of bittersweet effect on you. Till your 20’s, life has been dreamy, filled with rainbows and sunshine; suddenly it all disappears and reality sets in. Our illusion of reality, our bubble in which we lived, bursts and it can be frustrating to navigate through all of this at once.

There are some things you can do in your 20’s to make your life better. I know it’s not as easy as it sounds but it’s something which will be helpful to make peace with the changes taking place in our lives.

Put yourself first

It’s time to put your needs, your dreams and passions first. You have to stop and realize that there is no way you’ll ever please everyone and accept that. Use this period of your life to start making decisions which make you happy and excited, instead of thinking what anyone might say or feel about your decisions. Choose people and opportunities which will make you happy whether they the norm or not.

Surround yourself with good people

There are some people in all our lives which try to pull us down whether it is intentional or not. Its necessary to be around friends or family who are supportive of you not in a sugarcoating everything for you way but in a way where you can always count on them. Spending time with people who are understanding, supportive, and positive, goes a long way in keeping us mentally sane. Knowing there are people who always have your back no matter what is such a comfort in this confusing phase of life.

Accept failure

Things do not go your way once in a while, as we grow up most of the times they don’t go your way. Its okay to make mistakes, at this stage making mistakes is very normal. These mistakes don’t define your life they will help you improve. So, all the frustration and disappointment over failure is completely okay but try not to dwell on it too much. Failure is not the end of anything it’s just a step to better things.

Letting go

This is the most difficult part of life, ‘letting go’. I know saying to someone that should let go is an easy thing but actually doing it, is a whole another ball game. It’s tough forgetting the past, it is like moving on from a part of your life and it takes a lot of effort but its necessary. The world is full of possibilities and all the things you deserve will be yours eventually but dwelling on the issues that hurt to hinders the present. Live in the moment and everything will work out just have a little faith.

Trying to incorporate these perspectives into your life might seem far-fetched but it will actually help you deal with the turmoil within. You have to go with the flow and no matter how cliché it sounds; you have to be patient and optimistic to be able to adjust to adulthood.

Author: Aarti Athavle

Daydreamer - Writer - Bibliophile

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